The CoachAccountable Perspective – An authentic view of what works from the receiving end of being coached

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Psychology

Dangerously Tempting Rumination Conversations

Okay, it’s the top of your coaching session. Your client has arrived punctually, ready to get all you have to give. What’s your first move? It is so tempting to ask your client, “So, how’s it going?” And then listen. And ask follow up questions. …

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Action Planning

Tame the Swirl by Writing it Down

Got clients who are overwhelmed by all the things they have going on? Of course you do. Being coached is naturally the stuff of stretching beyond the ordinary and being high-achieving. As people who are “up to things”, there’s going to be a lot going…

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Metrics

Meaningfully Measuring Mere Feelings

I put the word “mere” in front of “feelings” in the title of this not to diminish the importance of feelings, but to concede that, unlike things that can be objectively measured as unambiguously as reading a thermometer, feelings are subjective and don’t come with…

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Metrics

The Story Behind (Each of) the Numbers

It’s great to see a trendline. A rising tide shows progress in the right direction. Steady consistency shows, well, steady consistency. Stagnation in the form of a growing gap between reality and the target is a bitter pill, but instructive to know all the same.…

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Metrics

Real Results Given by Real Measures

I cringe whenever I hear talk about coaching that derides it as armchair psychology, as just paying someone to blow sunshine up your skirt. I get it: from the outside, coaching can appear no different. After all, those are simply cynical labels for helping a…

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AI in Coaching

When Automation Becomes Abdication

I am a programmer who delights in making computers do cool things to make people happy. A large part of my career has been discovering, building, and selling ways by which to automate away tedious tasks. So make no mistake: I love me some automation.…

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Psychology

Keeping Us Powerfully Related to Reality

I heard the phrase “powerfully related to reality” thrown about during my early exploits in the coaching world. It was spoken by my coaches, during conversations about what was possible and for creating futures worth living into. It’s a pretty abstract phrase, right? I didn’t…

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Action Planning

If We’re Chasing “Pie in the Sky”, Call Us On It

Now that I’ve said my piece around what a boon it is for you to help the seedlings of our ambition take root via generous listening, I now want to give you license to temper that generosity. Because sometimes, when we’re dreaming of what might…

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Showcasing Style

Help Seedlings of Ambition Take Root

One of the real treats of working with a coach is having someone who’s listening for us to be the most powerful version of ourselves. Someone who–when we’re daring to daydream about what might be–is there to cheer us on, rather than throw cold water…

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Psychology

Attending To Our Self-Talk is Part of Your Job

Here’s a proposition for your consideration: the self-talk that arises in us clients is an opportunity for you as coach. Few coaches have ever been taught that this is so. Fewer still recognize it for the outsized lever that it is, to be either a…

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