The CoachAccountable Perspective – An authentic view of what works from the receiving end of being coached

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Therapy

You’re Already Whole, Complete and Perfect

On the heels of the observation that coaching naturally bleeds into therapy, here’s a premise to help your coaching avoid doing so. The best coaching I got was rooted in the premise that people are ALREADY whole, complete and perfect. You weren’t broken goods; you…

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Therapy

Coaching Naturally Bleeds into Therapy… Maybe

I was talking with a friend who both has a few coaching certifications and recently became a licensed therapist. She made an elegant argument that, when coaching, it is difficult to NOT have that coaching tread into territory that is more the stuff of talk…

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Psychology

It Doesn’t Have to Be True to Be Useful

In the course of your relationships with us clients, you’ll tell us lots of things. Bringing an outsider’s perspective to bear on what matters to us (and hopefully coming from a place that is wizened, nuanced, more experienced, or all of the above), you will…

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Showcasing Style

Your Feedback to Us Clients is Uncommonly Valuable

Here’s a hypothetical. Say us clients are working on something. Something important, something that’s stretching us, something we likely wouldn’t be undertaking outside of our coaching relationship with you. Or perhaps we would be, but by its important and stretching nature, really want your support…

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Showcasing Style

Effectively Advertise Your Abstract Results

Tell me what you do with your clients. As in, what do you help them do? Answers to this typically sound like: “Pursue what matters most to them.” “I help them get more confidence.” “I work with them to have better and stronger relationships.” “We…

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Psychology

Dangerously Tempting Rumination Conversations

Okay, it’s the top of your coaching session. Your client has arrived punctually, ready to get all you have to give. What’s your first move? It is so tempting to ask your client, “So, how’s it going?” And then listen. And ask follow up questions. …

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Action Planning

Tame the Swirl by Writing it Down

Got clients who are overwhelmed by all the things they have going on? Of course you do. Being coached is naturally the stuff of stretching beyond the ordinary and being high-achieving. As people who are “up to things”, there’s going to be a lot going…

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Metrics

Meaningfully Measuring Mere Feelings

I put the word “mere” in front of “feelings” in the title of this not to diminish the importance of feelings, but to concede that, unlike things that can be objectively measured as unambiguously as reading a thermometer, feelings are subjective and don’t come with…

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Metrics

The Story Behind (Each of) the Numbers

It’s great to see a trendline. A rising tide shows progress in the right direction. Steady consistency shows, well, steady consistency. Stagnation in the form of a growing gap between reality and the target is a bitter pill, but instructive to know all the same.…

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Metrics

Real Results Given by Real Measures

I cringe whenever I hear talk about coaching that derides it as armchair psychology, as just paying someone to blow sunshine up your skirt. I get it: from the outside, coaching can appear no different. After all, those are simply cynical labels for helping a…

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